Suggested reading list

There are many useful adoption resources available. Here we list books covering the different stages of your adoption journey. Many have been recommended by the professionals we work with, or through adopter-led support groups, or by our team members.

If you have any further suggestions please do let us know.

There is a huge amount of information about adoption and we feel that reading and research is vital to help you decide if adoption is right you.

Suggested books to read during Stage 1

  • The Adopters Handbook.  A. Salter.  2013
  • Adopting a child.  J. Lord.  2013
  • What to expect when you’re adopting.  Dr Ian Palmer.  2009
  • No Matter What.  Sally Donovan.  2013
  • A Pink Guide to Adoption.  Nicola Hill.  2012
  • Approaching Fatherhood.  P. May.  2005
  • Flying Solo.  Julia Wise.  2007
  • Loving and living with traumatised children.  Megan Hirst.  2005
  • The Colours in Me.  Perlita Harris.  2008
  • What every parent needs to know. Margot Sutherland 2016
  • Therapeutic parenting in a nutshell. Sarah Naish 2018

Suggested books to read during Stage 2

  • Why Love Matters.  Sue Gerhardt.  2005
  • The Primal Wound.  Nancy Barrier.  2009
  • The Connected Child.  Karyn Purvis. 2005
  • The Whole Brain Child.  Dan Siegel.  2012
  • Unconditional Parenting.  Alfie Khon.  2006
  • Attaching in Adoption.  Deborah Gray.  2012
  • Attaching through love, hugs and play.  Deborah Gray.  2014
  • Creating Loving Attachments.  Kim Golding / Dan Hughes.  2012
  • New Families, Old Scripts.  Burnell, Archer and Gordon.  2006
  • Big Steps for Little Children.  Celia Foley.  2008
  • Preparing for Adoption.  Julie Davis.  2014
  • The Unofficial Guide to Adoptive Parenting.  Sally Donovan.  November 2014
  • Preparing for Adoption.  A guide to introductions and the first few weeks.  Julie Davis.  2014
  • Parenting from the inside out.  Dan Siegel.  2013
  • Born for Love.  Bruce Perry.  2011
  • Parenting A Child with emotional and behavioural difficulties.  Dan Hughes.  2012
  • Building the Bonds of Attachment.  Dan Hughes.  2006
  • A child’s journey through Placement.  Vera Fahlberg.  2008
  • The simple guide to childhood trauma. Betsy Thierry 2016

Suggested books for friends and relatives

  • Related by Adoption.  Heidi Argent.  2014
  • No Matter What.  Sally Donovan.  2013
  • Before I arrive.  H. Townsend.  2013
  • Adoption if a Family Affair.  Irwin Johnson.  2012

For families who have birth or previously adopted children

  • Welcoming a New Brother or Sister through adoption.  Arletta James.  2013 (for adults)

Children’s books

Younger children

  • I Wished for You: An Adoption Story (Marianne Richmond, Marianne Richmond Studios, 2008 – follows a conversation between Barley Bear and his Mama as they curl up in their favourite cuddle spot and discuss how they became a family. Barley asked Mama the questions many adopted children have, and Mama lovingly answers them all.
  • We belong together.  Todd Parr.  2008
  • It’s O.K to be different.  Todd Parr.  2009
  • My New Family.  Pat Thomas.  2003
  • Murphy’s three homes.  Jan Levinson Gilman.  2009
  • William Wobbly and Sophie Spikey 2016

Mixed age range

  • Nutmeg Gets Adopted (Judith Foxon, BAAF, 2001) Full colour illustrated story about a little squirrel who gets adopted when his birth mother is unable to keep him and his siblings safe. A set of practice guidelines accompanying this story will help parents and professionals working with children who may be bewildered, upset and angry, to come to terms with their family situation and adjust to a new life.
  • Zachary’s new home.  Geraldine and Paul Blomquist.  1990
  • Before I arrive.  H. Townsend.  2013
  • The Red Thread: An Adoption Fairy Story (Grace Kin, Albert Whitman and Company, 2007) – A children’s story based on an ancient Chinese belief that are invisible, unbreakable red thread connects all those who are destined to be together.
  • Oh brother! Tom Gets a New Adopted Brother (Claire Friday, Adoption UK, 2005) – Aimed at children aged between 7 – 11 years, this book tells the story of a single birth child whose parent decides to adopt another child.

Suggested books beyond adoption approval

  • From Fear to Love.  Bruce Perry.  2011
  • Brain Storm.  Dan Siegel.  2014
  • Playful parenting.  Lawrence Cohen.  2012
  • The Myth of the Spoiled Child.  Alfie Khon.  2014
  • Toddle Adoption – The Weaver’s Craft.  Mary Hopkins.  2012
  • Attachment in Common Sense and Doodles.  Miriam Silver. 2013
  • Wounded children, healing homes.  Jayne E Schooler.  2010
  • When Love is not enough.  Nancy Thomas.  2008
  • Why can’t my child behave?  Amber Elliot.  2013
  • How to talk so children listen and listen, so children talk.  Elaine Mazlish and Adele Faber.  2013
  • Attachment, Trauma and Resilience: Therapeutic caring for children.  2002
  • Creative coping skills for children.  Bonnie Thomas 2009
  • Reparenting the child who hurts.  Caroline Archer and Christine Gordon.  2012
  • How to get kids offline, outdoors and connecting with nature.  Bonnie Thomas.  2014
  • Talking to your child about adoption.  Prue Chennells and Marjorie Morrison.  2004

Suggested reading about education issues – can be shared with schools / teachers

  • Inside I’m hurting.  Louise Michelle Bomber.  2007
  • What about me.  Louise Michelle Bomber.  2011
  • Attachment in the classroom.  Heather Geddes.  2005
  • Teach to inspire better behaviour.  Su Gott.  2011

Some suggestions of books about, and in some cases for children

  • Without you.  Tamar Granot.  2004 – Children growing up with loss and its effects.
  • A safe place for Caleb.  K Chara and Paul Chara.  2005 – Interactive book about impacts of early trauma on it on attachment etc. for adolescents, adults and can be used with the younger children.
  • A Terrible thing happened.  Margaret Holmes.  2000
  • The Mulberry Bird.  Brodinsky.  2013
  • The Kite’s Tale. Molly Ashton.  2020